I recall that we were cautioned as teenagers, learning Japanese while living in Japan, that "Iei" (no) was impolite to say in business and formal situations. I don't think it's as much of a taboo now, except in retail/business exchanges when it is still very impolite, but long ago and in a rural area it was stressed.
That suited me fine! I tried to co-op the etiquette and extend it to American-English situations as well.
It is very interesting…and sometimes requires adroit mental gymnastics, to communicate 'no' without using the word. Prime training for diplomacy that was required years later when I became a parent and, later still, during my career as a real estate broker.
Now, older, wiser and much more experienced, I see real value in not saying 'no'. For instance, I try dyeing, or a new technique, or a new idea without success. Perfect time for a 'yes!' That situation simply set up a new dynamic….time to try something different.
I hope to build on negatives with a big, old, hearty, fist-pumping YES.
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